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DIVORCE FAQs

(Frequently Asked Questions)

 

Attorney Fees

Q:  How much will a divorce cost?

A:  There is usually no set amount or “flat fee” for a divorce, although attorneys vary in their fee structure.  If billed on an hourly basis, then te cost of your divorce is a function of how much time the law firm spends on your case.  Sometimes you are billed for the attorney’s (and sometimes, paralegal’s) time at a certain hourly rate, plus various expenses, e.g. filing fees, experts, administration fees, postage, copies, etc.  Your retainer, or “Engagement Agreement,” gives the details of what, how and when you will be billed.

 

 

Legal Process

Q:  What are the grounds for a divorce?

A:  Each state’s grounds differ.  For example while California has “Irreconcilable Differences,” New York does not.  If your state does not have Irreconcilable Differences, people are able to file under another basis, such as Extreme Cruelty (in NJ).  Most states also have a “no fault” ground, such as 18 month separation.  The bottom line is that the Court needs to establish that it is no longer reasonable and/or safe for the two of you to remain married.  (So, the fact that you don’t like your spouse’s new hair-do generally won’t cut it.) 

 

Q:  When will my case go to trial?

A:  A relatively small percent of divorce cases in NJ are actually tried.  Most divorces result in a settlement agreement.  Generally, this is the preferred course because it gives you more control over the outcome (not to mention your wallet – because trials can be expensive).  If your case has not settled within the first year of the Complaint being filed, it could be scheduled for a trial.  Then again, you could wait significantly longer than one year for a trial date.

 

Q:  When will my case settle?

A:  Much of this answer depends on you and your spouse.  The legal process often helps the settlement negotiations as it forces both sides to spend money on attorney fees every time the parties do not settle; generally, the increased attorney fees thus provide an incentive for both sides to meet in the middle.

 

Q:  What happens after the Complaint is filed?

A:  It is served on your spouse.

 

Q:  How is the Complaint served on my spouse?

A:  There are several ways.  If you two are friendly, he/she, or their attorney, can sign an “Acknowledgement of Service.”  Or, they can be served by a personal process server at their home or workplace.

 

Q:  How long do I have to file an Answer to the Complaint?

A:  If you have been served with a Summons & Complaint, then in NJ you have 35 days to file an “Appearance,” “Answer,” or “Answer and Counterclaim,” or to file some other appropriate motion (which is rare).  If you are in another state, check your state’s court website for timeframes and filing fees.

 

Q:  When is my Financial Statement due?

A:  Most states have a requirement that each party must file a version of a detailed financial statement.  In NJ, each party’s Financial Statement (Case Information Statement - CIS) is due within 20 days of the Defendant’s filing his/her Answer/Counterclaim.

 

Q:  What is discovery?

A:  Discovery is legal term for exchanging information that each side needs/wants in order to evaluate the case, negotiate a settlement, and/or put on a trial.  Generally, there are “Interrogatories” (written questions)  and “Requests for Document Production” (copies of documents).  Sometimes, there are also “Depositions,” where you answer the other attorney’s questions under oath, prior to trial.  Also, expert reports and appraisals, among other things, can also be part of the discovery process.

 

Q:  What happens when my spouse and I agree to the divorce terms?

A:  The attorneys draft a Settlement Agreement for each party to sign.  After it is signed, a court date is scheduled for the Uncontested Divorce Hearing.

 

Q:  What happens at the Uncontested Divorce Hearing?

A:  It is a simple proceeding where the Judge grants you the divorce. 

 

 

 

Motions

Q:  What is a Motion?

A:  A Motion is a request to the Court for an Order giving you something you want – e.g. child support, parenting time, etc.

 

Q:  What is a pendente lite motion?

A:  Latin, Latin, Latin!  Pendente lite simply means “pending the outcome of the lawsuit.”  So, it means a temporary decision, e.g. temporary alimony or child support.

 

Q:  Can I file a motion after a Judgment of Divorce?

A:  Yes.  These are called Post-Judgment motions.  They are usually used to (1) enforce the divorce agreement, or (2) change issues surrounding the children, e.g. parenting time or support.

 

Q:  What is the motion procedure?

A:  You file with the Court and serve on your (ex)spouse (or his/her attorney) a Notice of Motion with various supporting paperwork.  Your (ex)spouse has an opportunity to respond and/or to file a Cross-Motion.  You have an opportunity then to respond.  Then the Court may hear oral arguments.  Then the Court enters and files an Order.

 

Q:  What are motion oral arguments?

A:  Oral Arguments for motions are where the two attorneys tell the Judge why the Court should rule in his/her client’s favor.  Generally, the Court does not, or will not, allow testimony from the parties.  Usually the Judge decides the motion at oral argument.  Sometimes, the Court will write a detailed decision.